Aunty Em’s Tips For Doing The Long Distance Thing!
I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years(he lives in London, whereas I have moved around from Cornwall, Norwich, Paris and soon Argentina!). We have had our ups and downs but they are mostly the same as a non-long distance relationship. I met my partner whEent I was still living in Cornwall, whilst he lived in London. That meant we had a good 5 hour drive/train ride separating us. It didn’t matter to me how far away he was, I just knew I wanted to be with him and he felt that same way (this helped things a lot!). I soon moved to Norwich to start University so I was still 2 hours away yet this felt so much closer after being 300 miles away from him before. I truly believe a long distance relationship can work, if both of you are willing to make it work that is. You both have to commit to making it work, otherwise it will only be a matter of time before it begins to fall apart. So here are a few tips that I feel seem to help:
Tip One: Do not mope. Now this can be quite difficult if you know you won’t see them for a long time, but you have to remember that life goes on. Just because they are not standing by your side physically does not mean that they aren’t there in your thoughts and you in theirs. It can be so easy to fall into a slight depression when they aren’t around but see this space as an opportunity to get things done. If you are at school, get your homework finished early so you have more free time to go out and enjoy life; if you have work, take the space as a way of relaxing and being in control and independent. You’ll notice time will go faster if you keep yourself focused on work/school matters and then, before you know it, you’ll be waiting at the train station for that train to pull in and see that familiar face you’ve been dreaming about. You may notice that you appreciate the time you have together much more, rather than feeling the urge to have some space now and then if they were to always be around.
Tip Two: Talk regularly. This can be hard depending on the situation of work, where you’re living etc, but make sure you make time to talk. Even if it’s an email/text message in the morning to say ‘I love you’, a little reassurance that they are on your mind goes a long way! If you are living in different countries, try to compromise and set aside a time to have a ‘Skype Date’. You can get all fancy with this and even try and time it to make it seem like you’re on a dinner date! Just make sure you are willing to take time out to talk to them.
Tip Three: Tell them if you are upset. Especially if it’s a guy, he will not be able to tell if you are being off with him over text so you may as well just spit it out so you can resolve the issue. Most of the time it will probably all boil down to the fact that you miss them.
Ok so here are a few to get you started. I hope they help. If you have any you think are worth sharing, please just add a comment below as I would love to see them. Advice is for sharing. And sharing is caring, right?!
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I’ll write soon,
Lots of love,
Aunty Em x